5:30PM I decided to wake my fiancé up from his peaceful nap so we could go eat at our favorite hibachi spot in Boston, MA. Once we got to our destination we were seated at the hibachi table with another couple, very polite and enjoyed two cocktails. Mind you those two cocktails went straight to my head, and I was in a very talkative mood. My fiancé politely let me know that we could not hang out at the restaurant all night and it was time to go home.
We live about 10 minutes away so by time we got home I had already called my favorite cousin, close school friend, and I wanted to call my bestie. The bestie who I've been friends with since middle school. Who I use to hang out with every single day, even when we worked together. The strangest thing is, I couldn't tell you the last time I spoke to him. So drunk me decided to look him up on facebook and call him on messenager. Thinking he was probably with his girlfriend or living his best life at some bar because that's how I always remember him, the life of the party.
Little to my knowledge, what I got was, my tired best friend. The best friend who had a hospital gown on, sitting in a loud hospital room with his girlfriend, his mother, and his grandmother, not what drunk me expected. Then reality hit me , we aren't 14 anymore, we are both 27 going through life without each other. Seeing him trying to crack a smile for me while telling me that he has had chrome disease since the age of 14.... That couldn't possibly be true because we were best friends I would know something like that. I automatically felt like shit because the reality was I didn't know what was going on, how much pain he was in, and why I wasn't in the room with him.
Having a short conversation with him prompted me to write this blog because how many people out there have lost connections to people you once would have given your life for? I am not talking about past relationships with partners, I am talking about close relationships with friends or family that you guys simply just let time interfere with your friendship? I personally have complained more times than I can count on how I don't have friends, and I wish I had people in my life who I could simply just hang out, but the truth is I do have people in my life, I just didn't take the time to nourish the friendship. Do not get me wrong any relationship goes both ways, it takes two people to make a relationship work but at the same time I feel as if I did not play my part.
So I want to hear from you, what are some great ways to nourish some friendships that you want back?
Also I challenge you to hit someone up that has been on your mind lately. More people need to know that they are thought about and its up to us to show people that we care.
Please comment below and let me know how you stay connected with your family or friends, and if not, how to plan on staying connected in the future.
If you feel as if you have no one, please comment as well, this is a safe community and I am always here to listen.